Summer Solstice Celebration Camping Trip

What an amazingly incredibly wonderful trip!

After two bottles of mead and a six pack of beer 🙂

Eric and I went camping to celebrate the Summer Solstice.  He had class Saturday morning, so while he was at class I spent the morning getting the food all ready and everything all packed up.  When he got home we packed up and headed out.  It started to look like it might rain, but we were lucky and it didn’t rain on us at all the entire night!  We had a spectacular full moon, a supermoon in fact!

Amazing full moon

This was the first time we had ever camped at First Landing State Park in Virginia Beach.  It is as close as you can get to camping on the beach, I think.  We checked in and drove around to find the perfect spot.  Reservations are not site specific so they tell you what area has openings and you go find what you want, and claim it.  The majority of the sites were already booked up since I believe it was a sold out weekend, but we ended up finding a great spot.  And we got lucky enough to have the campsite beside us vacant so it helped to feel a little more secluded and private.

First thing first, time for a beer!  We cracked open a couple bottles of Yuengling, made a toast to us and our weekend and begun our celebration!  We got the car all unpacked and started to put up the tent.  Ha ha ha That crazy little pop up tent took us probably about 45 minutes to put up.  Time for another beer.  It appears everywhere we tried to put the stakes in, there was a rock bed under the dirt so we had to keep moving it around to find a spot where we could get the stakes through the ground.

Before dinner, there were a couple of trees calling my name!  I Love Love Love climbing trees!

Time to fire up the grill and get dinner started and open up the mead.  After a delicious dinner of tofu pups, grilled veggies, corn on the cob, and a steak for Eric we lit up the camp fire.  We had so much fun just sitting by the fire on a blanket on the ground, drinking mead, talking and enjoying the moment.  Enjoying each other.

Our Summer Solstice tradition is fire and mead.  In whatever form available to us.  This year we tried something different enough and new and went camping, to have the real fire, rather than just the fire from our grill.

Fire and Mead!

We used the greenery from our Winter Solstice Yule Log to get the fire started and after the fire was roaring we burned our Yule Log in our fire.  It is said to bring good look and prosperity in the upcoming year, and we decided that rather than burning our log on the Winter Solstice, we would save it until the Summer Solstice and then burn it.  The start of a nice new tradition for us!

Burning our Yule Log from Winter Solstice

After two bottles of mead, a six pack of beer, a delicious grilled dinner, quality time by the fire with the one you love, climbing trees, peeing outside in nature, and toasting marshmallows we decided to take a walk around our campground loop and find the beach.  It was probably sometime after midnight and the campground was so quiet and peaceful.  Pretty much everyone was already asleep and it felt like we had the whole place to ourselves.  We walked along the beach and out to the ocean with the brightness of the full moon guiding our way.

It was a perfect night.  Everything was incredible.  I feel so happy and blessed to have such an amazing time.  I got up early this morning… unfortunately not early enough to see the sunrise… but early enough to light up the grill and make some fried rosemary potatoes and onions and peppers with some coffee for breakfast before we had to check out.

It was definitely just what Eric and I needed, especially after some of the difficulties we have had.  Communing with nature is the perfect remedy to help combat any of that leftover negative energy still residing inside.  To just get away from the “real world”, focus on the two of us and forget about everything else.



Summer Solstice = Fire and Mead…and Dancing!

The Summer Solstice is Friday June 21, 2013.  The Summer Solstice is a major celestial event in which civilizations have celebrated the great power of the sun for centuries.  Also known as Midsummer, this day marks the first day of summer.  It is also the longest day and the shortest night of the year.  The word Solstice is derived from Latin meaning sun to stand still,  Sol+stice = Sun + to stand still.  As the day lengthens the sun rises higher and higher in the sky until it seems to stand still, at its highest point in the sky.

Early Celtic civilizations celebrated  the first day of summer with dancing and bonfires, helping to increase the sun’s energy.   Chinese honored Li, the Chinese Goddess of Light.  Druids would celebrate the day as a marriage of Heaven and Earth, resulting in a modern-day belief that it is “lucky” to have a wedding in June.  Every year, thousands of people gather at Stonehenge at sunrise where the sunrise is welcomed and Summer Solstice is celebrated.

Summer Solstice at Stonehenge

Pagan and earth-based tradition festivals take place where groups of people gather to light a sacred fire and stay up all night long to welcome the dawn.  Oak is the wood of choice, the oak tree is associated with strength, stability and the sun.  Celebrations included bonfires where couples would leap through the flames with the belief that their crops would grow as high as the couples were able to jump.  It is also believed that the bonfires have great power and that prosperity and protection cold be received by jumping over them.  Cold embers from fires were charms against injury and bad weather during harvests. They were placed around fields and orchards of crops to protect them and ensure abundance.   The ashes of the fire can also be spread on the garden, said to aid in fertility, and walking through the smoke of the fire was traditionally believed to cure sickness and bring good fortune.

Newly married couple jumping through the flames of a bonfire.

Midsummer is thought to be a time of magic, when evil spirits were said to appear.  To rid them off, Pagans often wore protective garlands of herbs and flowers.  Pagans believe it is an excellent time for weddings, communicating with nature spirits and divination.  It is believed that the boundaries between the worlds are thin and the portals between them are open, especially at twilight.

One other traditional Summer Solstice activity was doing cartwheels down a hillside.  In this tradition, the wheel represents the wheel of life.    Some modern celebrations include a wheel firework display, very appropriate for this “fire festival”!

Pagan Solstice Wheel

Pagans called the Midsummer moon the “Honey Moon” for the mead made from fermented honey that was part of wedding ceremonies performed at the Summer Solstice.

There are many different types of celebrations or festivals to celebrate the Summer Solstice.   I love the Summer Solstice and the Pagan idea of it rooted in nature and honoring Mother Nature.  I love to develop my own celebrations or rituals to celebrate days like this.

When Eric and I got together, I wanted to come up with a celebration ritual for the two of us to enjoy each year.  I took a couple of the ideas of what Summer Solstice is and put them together for something fun for us.  With it being the “festival of fire” and a day to celebrate the power and energy of the sun i wanted to incorporate fire into our celebration.  Living in an apartment, it was always hard to create a bonfire so we decided on a simple fire ceremony involving our charcoal grill and whatever food we choose to grill!  Another aspect i incorporated into our ritual was the drinking of Mead, which is Honey Wine.  The Pagans called the midsummer moon the “honey moon” named after the honey wine Mead drink that was a popular drink as part of summer solstice wedding ceremonies.


Each year our Summer Solstice celebration will consist of Fire and Mead!  I am sure it is something we will continue each year, maybe modifying or adding something to adjust our lifestyle at that time, but it will always include Fire and Mead!

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These are the two kinds of mead I got for this year!

This year, on Saturday the 22nd, rather than the 21st (because of schedules) Eric and I are going to go camping for the night.  We are going to build a great fire, burn our yule log from the Winter Solstice, drink our mead and dance together around the fire!  Too bad we will be in a public state park…  because drinking mead and dancing around the fire….NAKED… sounds like the perfect medicine for all that ales..  😉 I am really excited about this celebration, ready to climb a tree and pee outside!  And to celebrate the Summer Solstice with the man of my dreams.

We saved our Yule log from Winter Solstice and will start our fire with the wood from our Yule log.  Saving the Yule log is said to bring good luck, then to burn it during the following Summer Solstice helps to release the past and move forward.  Something that would definitely be beneficial for Eric and myself.

Find a way to celebrate the Summer Solstice.  Whether it be rooted in religion or nature get out and enjoy the longest day of the year!

Summer of Fun

I am determined to make this a summer filled with fun and excitement.  I plan to have new experiences, try things I have been wanting to, and do things I have always loved doing.  Whether I get to share these experiences with Eric, friends, or alone… I am determined to make it happen.  And when I get determined… you know what happens 🙂

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  • Rock Climbing
  • Roller Skating
  • Run the color vibe run – make it fun, and experience, a memory, not just a run – Completed this July 20, 2013.  I had an awesome time with two of my most favorite ladies in the entire world.  Hanging out in the parking lot at 8am drinking bloody Mary’s waiting for the run to start.   It was a super hot July day and we all three were drained by the end of the race but had an incredible time.  After the run we headed to the beach and jumped in the ocean, fully clothed, to cool off and wash some of the color off of us.  After splashing around in the ocean and acting like kids at heart, we walked back to Sarah’s place and had a picnic on her porch of salad, pasta and water.  We felt so dehydrated after the day that neither of us wanted any wine or alcohol.  After a day filled with fun, sun and excitement, I headed home for a much needed nap!
  • Lots of concerts and music, live and local.  Even cover bands – Wen to see Marilyn Manson with Sarah and Maxx.  Walked down to Papa’s pub by myself one night to catch a cover band.  Cover band was actually pretty good and played a lot of good music that I actually enjoyed.
  • Lots of beach days
  • More tree climbing
  • Girls weekend away
  • Get on a consistent work out schedule and get back into shape
  • Go to the winery with Sarah and Ashley
  • Make a visit to the Buddhist Meditation Center in either VB or Norfolk
  • Lots of weekend bloody mary brunches
  • Camping  – Eric and I went camping at First Landing State Park for our Summer Solstice Celebration and had an amazingly excellent time!  It was just about the perfect camping trip!
  • Try to get more comfortable going to bars alone like I used to do in Wichita – Doing better with this also.  Madd Hatter played at a new bar, Krossroads one night.  I headed out alone and got there early for happy hour.  Of course I ran into a ton of people I knew there so I wasn’t really alone, but I did go alone.  One night when I was without a car I walked down to Papa’s Pub alone to hear the cover band they had playing and have some drinks.  I spend the majority of the night alone, just enjoying myself.  Then eric came after class to meet up with me and drive me home.
  • Weekday trips to Busch Gardens
  • new tattoo
  • Watch the sunrise at the beach
  • Write more
  • Hiking and picnic at First Landing
  • Budget my money better so that I have funds to do the things I want to do
  • day drinking with my favorite people
  • Pick back up my “something new once a month” thing
  • Sing at karaoke
  • Find romance again
  • Find my new “chalet”
  • Reconnect with my strength and power again
  • Grow and strengthen the bonds I have created with some very special people I have met in the past year or so through time together, sharing experiences and memories, trust and love.
  • Open myself up to meeting new people
  • Spontaneous day trips.  Just get up and go
  • … fix my damn car… so I am free do to do all the things I want to do, without worrying about being broken down in the middle of nowhere. – Car is fixed!!
  • Weekend trip to WV to visit family – after car is fixed
  • Get back into meditation like I used to
  • Fight to keep Tuesday nights alive and exciting, no matter what

But MOST importantly, one of my biggest goals is to reconnect with the happy, easy going, fun, crazy, free spirit within me that I used to love so much.  She currently peaks her head out every once in a while, but I want her back consistently, for good. That means letting go of some of the stress and worry in my life.  The wants that I can’t have, the hopes that are hopeless.  It is hard to let go of things that I want so badly, but I am realizing that sometimes I have no choice, no control over the situation or the outcome.
I have a lot of thoughts in my head, a lot of conflict, a lot of decision making that needs to happen.  But none of that I am ready for just yet.  What I am ready for is to open up this box and let Bobbi out, full force!

The Instinct of Conformity

I just watched a movie from Redbox called Mental and thoroughly enjoyed it.  Here is a song from the movie that I wanted to share.  Instinctive Conformity by Sam Clark.

She’s The Best (Instinct Of Conformity)

She’s the best! Who would’ve guessed?
They want to own her so they can clone her
The Scientists just can’t resist
A girl like this who ain’t neuro-typical

She doesn’t know what she does to me
Born without the instinct of conformity
She ain’t normal just different shades of Mental
the fact that we met could not be accidental

And maybe she’s not the solution
But she’s the next step in human evolution

She’s the best! Who would’ve guessed?
I got impressed as she got undressed and she
Has something more or something less
I’m told she’s crazy, but I think she’s the best

Ohhhhhhh ohhhhhhh

She doesn’t know what she’s done to me
Born again I’m losing my conformity
She makes me feel funny in the tummy
Like Cinderella, Santa, Snow White and The Easter Bunny

And maybe she’s not the solution
But she’s the next step in human evolution

She’s the best! Who would’ve guessed?
I got impressed as she got undressed and she
Has something more or something less
I’m told she’s crazy, but I think she’s the best

Ohhhhhhh ohhhhhhh

I choose her first every time, I said
I choose her first every time, I said
I choose her first every time, I said
I choose her first every night, hey

Conformity is a type of social influence involving a change in belief or behavior in order to fit in with a group.

“Conformity—the natural instinct to passively yield to that vague something recognized as authority.”   ―     Mark Twain

First, as soon as the off beat, quirky character in the movie mentioned the instinct of conformity I was immediately more interested.  Then the song played in the background and I loved it.  It made me think of myself.  Now that I am older, I have learned to embrace my individuality, my quirky like behaviors, and the things that other people might consider “crazy”.   However when I was younger, I was always the odd ball.  The one people made fun of.  I marched by the beat of my own drum, and still do!  I didn’t let that instinct that most people have … called conformity, take over.

Enjoy the song, and the lyrics.  And no matter what, be who you truly are.  Never follow the crowd.  Be your own person and make your own rules.  The more true you are to yourself the more satisfied you will be with your life in the long run.

Relationships: Roller Coaster Ride or Cross-Country Skiing?

In terms of a relationship, would you prefer a roller coaster ride or cross-country skiing?

Let me explain a little further:

Roller Coaster Ride

A relationship that has a lot of ups and downs, unpredictable,  loopdie loops, fast and slow, good and bad would be a roller coaster ride.  Full of passion and excitement.  When it is good, it is really good… yet when it is bad, it is really bad.


Cross Country Skiing

Something even, stable, consistent, predictable.  Not much ups and downs, pretty much even keel. Can tend to get boring.  Comfortable with the status quo, not much spontaneity.  Firmly set boundaries, clear expectations and an even set of emotions.


There can be pros and cons for both sides.   Me,  personally… I would take the roller coaster ride any day.  Even though I may complain about some of the things that come along with it, I definitely prefer that over something predictable, dull.  Yet there can be something said for consistency, boundaries and clear expectations.  What about some balance in the middle, somewhere between extreme ups and downs of the roller coaster relationship and the evenness of the cross-country skiing relationship?

I have experienced both.  I was too bored with the cross country skiing.  I wished for more excitement, more spontaneity, wished he would show more passion and excitement.. about anything.  My roller coaster relationship is full of excitement.  I love how he gets excited over the smallest things, just like I do.  Sometimes the ups and downs are what make it what it is.  A roller coaster wouldn’t be the same without the hills and loops.



Would love to hear thoughts of others…





B&E Day

With Eric in school and working a job with a very inconsistent schedule, there are very few days where we get to spend the whole day together.  While this is very difficult for me to get used to, I am trying to make the most of every moment we do get to spend together.

This past Sunday was the first day we have had together for a while and I fully intended to make the most of it!  We slept in and woke up by greeting each other with a “good morning” and “Happy B&E Day!” – Translation… for those of you who need it… Bobbi and Eric Day!

This makes me smile… below is Eric’s Facebook post about B&E Day:

Eric Brown

Awesome day ahead of us its B&E Day hmmm should of thought this though on the name we dubbed today….don’t worry we’re not going to break into any houses we’re not crackheads crack is wack and we’re no fools we’re cool and stay in school
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See, we were both pretty excited about it!  We had plans to go to the Greek Fest in Norfolk.  Sunday was the last day for it and we had been looking forward to it all week.  We made our special coffee for the road and made our way to Norfolk.  The weather was beautiful.  Sunny and warm.  Of course the Greek Fest was crowded and we had to stand in line as soon as we got there, but we didn’t care.  While standing in line we were able to listen to some great live music and performances on the stage in the main tent.  And even better, the beer guy came around and we got Greek Beer to drink while we waited in line.
I had already studied the a la cart menu and knew exactly what I wanted.  When we finally made it to the front of the line, here is what we got:
Greek Salad – Lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, onions, Greek peppers, feta cheese and Kalamata olives with Greek vinaigrette.
Dolmathes – Tender grape leaves stuffed with a rice filling and bathed in a tangy lemon sauce.
Spanakopita – A delicious phyllo pie made with spinach and feta cheese which is wrapped and baked to perfection.
Rice Pilaf – Rice prepared with a blend of spices and butter.
Yani Beanas – Greek style green beans, simmered with tomatoes, onions and Greek spices.
Baklava – A rich sweet pastry made with layers of chopped walnuts, phyllo, butter and spices then baked to perfection and covered with a honey-syrup.
Chocolate Dip – Greek cake with cream center covered in chocolate.
 Here is Eric enjoying Mythos Greek Beer!
After stuffing ourselves with all the delicious food, we walked around some, got another Greek beer and sat down and enjoyed the entertainment of Greek music and dancing.
After we had our fill of the Greek Fest, took the scenic route to the Oceanfront and met Sarah and Max at Watermans for some Orange Crushes.  And to our surprise, we got there just in time for Happy Hour!  We sat outside on the deck overlooking the ocean and just enjoyed the company and the delicious drinks.  After a couple of hours we decided to walk down to the ocean.  Feel the sand on our toes and the salty ocean water on our feet.  By then it had started to cool off a lot.  If it had been warmer I would have jumped in the ocean, clothes and all.  But I will save that for another day 🙂
We parted ways with our company, fed the meter so we had more time at our parking spot and just decided to take a little walk down the strip.  We did some window shopping, talked and enjoyed the walk.  By this time we had spent pretty much all the money we had allotted for the day with only a few dollars left in my pocket which we were going to try to save and bring back home with us… but no such luck!  We found a pizza place that sold pizza by the slice, so we got two slices of cheese pizza which was extremely delicious.  While walking back to the car we found yet another pizza place that sold by the slice so we looked at each other, smiled and headed inside to get more pizza.  Spontaneous and fun.  We just sampled two different pizza places along the strip to see which one we liked the best.    Of course, neither of us were hungry as we had been eating and drinking all day, but it was just fun and a spur of the moment thing, so we did it.
We then headed home and snuggled on the couch with our girls to catch up on some of our DVR tv shows, fell asleep on the couch and went to bed.
It was just so nice to have a full day together.  It is so easy to take advantage of things like that and take them for granted.  Before when we had all weekend together, every weekend I love it.  But now that our time together is much less frequent, we both try to make a point to make the most of it, cherish the time we do have and not take it for granted.
Now I am looking forward to our next B&E Day!