Have I ever told you all why I love Tuesdays so much? If you follow my facebook page you know I am always excited when Tuesday come around. Sometimes I wish everyday could be a Tuesday.
Tuesdays are my one guaranteed “date night” with the love of my life. When life gets hectic and schedules take over it is even more important than ever to make that time for each other. Happily and excitedly, not reluctantly.
It all started in the Summer of 2009. I call that “My Summer of Recovery and Discovery”. Maybe I’ll write a separate blog about that some other time 😉 Two friends took a chance and fell in love with each other. Because we were previously such good friends, all of our friends were all in the same group together. We all hung out together all the time. After Eric and I got together, it was difficult to find time alone together because we were always with all of our other friends. Back then I had discovered that he was also a fan of wine and wine tasting and we decided to have a “wine night” and try a different wine together. Tuesday became the day. It was a day he didn’t have band practice, a day I didn’t already have things scheduled with other friends, and a day that my roommate at the time did have band practice and was gone for the evening.
We started to share Tuesday evenings together each week. Sharing wine and conversation and getting to know each other better. Five years later, we still have our Tuesday wine night date night together. Our lives have changes, times have changed and our schedules have changed but our Tuesday nights have not. Things got hectic with Eric in class, having band practice, and working mostly evenings but no matter what he has always made Tuesday nights unavailable for any other activities other than us. Sometimes being the only night we had to actually spend the whole evening together, made it even more important and special
Maybe that is one of the reasons, among many others, why our relationship keeps growing stronger and stronger. Through all the bad times and all the hardships we always come out on top. We make a conscious effort to ensure we have that time together. Relationships are hard work sometimes and require that maintaining and attention or they will become stagnant or fail. Ours will not.
Some of my favorite Tuesday evenings involve the two of us cracking open a bottle of wine and cooking a fun dinner together. We come up with some pretty amazing concoctions in the kitchen. We love to play cards or board games and spend time with our furbabies. We often just relax out on the balcony with our wine and good conversation, talking and sharing with each other. Those are some of my most favorite times. Staying home, just the two of us and blocking out the rest of the world. Forgetting about our phones, the internet, television and other outside distractions and just enjoying each other.
Every couple needs one night a week together like this! Whether you have children or not and no matter how hectic or busy your schedule is. If it is something that is important to you, you will make time for it. It is about priorities and you MUST make your relationship a priority.