Porn

I am seeking feedback from my readers on this topic… Men and Women.  So please read and post comments, feedback, opinions and thoughts – negative or positive, all welcome!

The topic of porn has come up several times now, in passing, and I wanted to share my thoughts on the topic and get thoughts of others.  All completely hypothetical … just inquiring about other’s thoughts on the topic.

Myself, I do enjoy watching porn, when in the right mood for it.  However, it is something that I would prefer to watch with my partner and enjoy it together.  I see nothing wrong with porn and view it as normal and natural for people to have that curiosity and interest.  Yet at the same time there is some porn that can be somewhat more tasteful than others while a great majority can be very offensive and degrading to women.

I do have to say that, in my honest opinion, I do feel like it is inappropriate for a man (or woman)  in a healthy, happy, committed and satisfying relationship to spend time watching porn alone.  On the same issue, to spend time at the strip club alone, while your woman is at home waiting for you.  The main point here is … in a happy, healthy, committed and satisfying relationship.  If you have all of those things, why do some feel the need to look outside of what they have for something else or something more?

Now this is I different story if you are single, or if you are unhappy and unsatisfied in your relationship.  I see this sort of activity/behavior as a sign that you are missing or lacking something from your own current relationship and are seeking that fulfillment and satisfaction elsewhere, outside of your relationship.  Which does not make it more right, but does provide some sort of justification.. in my eyes.

I do not understand the need or urge to want to view porn alone, especially if your current partner has told you that they would be happy to do something like that together.  Do men find this off-putting, the idea of watching porn with their partners?  I do consider myself to be a very self confident person who is also pretty sexually open and not easily offended, however the idea that my partner would be watching porn alone would tend to make me feel like less of a woman and less of a partner, like I was not satisfying him the way he needs to be, to the point that he seeks for that outside of me and our relationship.

Thoughts, ideas, opinions?  Go!

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20 responses to “Porn

  1. If you took porn out of the equation, would it still be wrong for someone to masturbate if they had a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a husband/wife? If not, what’s the difference? I understand your statement about not feeling like an adequate partner if your significant other watches porn alone, but I would submit this from the male perspective: How do you think men feel about women who bring sex toys into the equation?

    As a male, obviously I watch porn, but the older I become the less I watch. I don’t think there is anything inherently “immoral” about porn, but I do think it has a lot of negative effects. First and foremost, the vast majority of porn presents hugely unrealistic depictions of sex, and that sets up a whole host of problem for adolescent boys and girls when they grow up. And secondly, research has shown that porn pretty much desensitizes men when it comes to arousal. Science would seem to indicate that the more porn a man watches, the harder it becomes to reach a state of arousal, even with a flesh and blood partner, which can eventually lead to sexual dysfunction.

  2. That does pose a good question ryan, how do men feel about women who bring sex toys into the equation? Thank you for your comment and for your input. I love being able to get a male perspective. You pose and excellent point about the arousal research, thank you for sharing that!

  3. I think a lot of men feel emasculated by things like vibrators and dildos. We all know that you use them, but I think that most men, at some point, think that women use them because they aren’t doing an adequate job in bed.

  4. Also one might point out that many men watch porn, and women ignore it, because women don’t always want sex. They have to be in a “mood.” Men just need the right air and we are good to go. 🙂

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